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Juneteenth, Freedom Day, Jubilee Day, Emancipation Day

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On Monday, June 20, 2022, Starfish Family Services will be closed for a day of commemoration.

Juneteenth, short for June 19, is the oldest nationally celebrated commemoration of the ending of slavery in the United States. On June 19, 1865, Union soldiers, led by Major General Gordon Granger, arrived at Galveston, Texas, with news that the war had ended and that enslaved Americans were now free. This came two and a half years after President Abraham Lincoln’s Emancipation Proclamation, which became official on January 1, 1863. (Source: https://www.juneteenth.com/history/)

On June 17, 2021, President Biden signed into law: S. 475, the “Juneteenth National Independence Day Act,” declaring June 19 as Juneteenth National Independence Day and a federal holiday. It was the first new federal holiday enacted since the establishment of Martin Luther King, Jr. Day in 1983.

“Juneteenth (also known as Freedom Day, Jubilee Day, or Emancipation Day) is a day to honor and celebrate liberation. The holiday is all about celebrating Black culture, history and life, and bringing people together to honor all those who came before us and fought for the rights and privileges we hold today.” (Source: https://www.purewow.com/family/how-to-celebrate-juneteenth)

Juneteenth Events: Southeast Michigan

We’ve spotlighted several Juneteenth celebrations taking place across southeast Michigan. Click for an expansive list of events, compiled by Brendel Hightower, Detroit Free Press.

June 11-19: Juneteenth Detroit Festival. Visit juneteenthindetroit.com for a list of events scheduled throughout metro Detroit that include music, art, food and so much more.

June 15-22: Southfield Juneteenth Celebration. Music, dance performances, a 2.5-mile walk, children’s story time, special appearances from Black Cowboy L.C. Caldwell and Tuskegee Airmen, food, and games. Southfield Municipal campus, 26000 Evergreen Road.

June 17-19: Juneteenth Freedom Weekend. The City of Detroit, Metro Detroit Black Business Alliance, Detroit Branch NAACP, Charles H. Wright Museum of African American History, Juneteenth Jubilee, Detroit Means Business and Eastern Market Development Corporation have partnered for events such as the Rhythm and Art Block Party, the Juneteenth Jubilee Stroll Livernois Avenue of Fashion, and the Juneteenth Freedom Fest – Eastern Market Shed.

June 18-19: Juneteenth Jubilee Freedom Weekend 

  • June 18, 10 a.m.-4 p.m.: The Charles H. Wright Museum will highlight the history of Juneteenth, an “Underground Railroad Treasure Hunt,” and black-owned businesses and job opportunities.
  • June 19, 3 p.m.: A concert at the museum entitled “Spirits Soar-Free!,” offering sights and sounds of musical performances from the 1860s to today.

June 18-19: Ypsilanti 2nd Annual Juneteenth Celebration. Hustle dance lessons, African dancers and drummers, poets, a jazz concert, comedy, and more at the parking lot behind Puffer Red’s, 107 Ferris St. in Ypsilanti.

Healing our children, community, ourselves

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Over the last several weeks, our world and our emotions have been rocked again by inexplicable violence and the unfathomable killing of innocent children and adults in what should be safe places. Watching news reports, as well as hearing about these shootings, have the potential to activate a trauma response (especially fear or anxiety) in children, families, and the larger community.

There is no easy answer. No single remedy for healing. But, as dedicated champions for children and families, we have compiled strength-based tools from multiple trusted and respected sources. And, please, never forget that Starfish is here for you.

Methods for healing

High profile acts of violence, particularly in a school, can confuse and frighten children who may feel they’re in danger or worry that their friends or loved-ones are in jeopardy. This is true even if the incident didn’t occur locally. Children identify with other children regardless of location—which may trigger signs of anxiety. This is normal. If behaviors persist over time, professional help may be needed. (Source: American Psychological Association)

What to look for?

  • Sudden changes in behavior: Trouble sleeping, difficulty with concentrating on school work or home responsibilities, changes in appetite, and changes in mood.
  • Regression: Do they struggle with activities that have previously been mastered, such as tying shoes (for little ones).
  • Despondency: Are they isolating, having crying spells or unpredictable outbursts.

How can we support our children?

Children look to us for information, reassurance, and guidance about how to navigate their emotions in a healthy, safe, and productive way. The best thing we can do is listen. Listening to our children about their worries and concerns is the first step to help them begin to cope (Source: National Association of School Psychologists)

  • Make time to talk and listen to the concerns and feelings of children.
  • Use language and ideas that are age-appropriate and appropriate for each child’s needs.
  • Help your child to identify their feelings.
  • Reassure children they are safe and review safety procedures.
  • Create a sense of safety by returning to normal, predictable routines as soon as possible.
  • Limit the use of media consumption of violent events to lower their stress and to maintain balance and perspective.

Model healthy behavior

It’s natural to be anxious right now. It’s perfectly okay to feel sad. Children, however, pick up on what we say and do and take cues from us. So, first and foremost, care for yourself. Sometimes, just taking time to sit in our emotions is exactly what we need.

  • Get adequate sleep.
  • Set an example by turning off the television, radio, or social media.
  • Talk to other parents.
  • Go for a walk, embrace the healing benefits of nature.
  • Connect with your community.

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Ann Kalass: Looking to Retirement

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All of my days at Starfish have been inspiring.

A personal note from Starfish CEO Ann Kalass

Dear friends,

When I came to Starfish Family Services in 2007, I made two commitments on Day One. First, was to always do the right thing for children and families, even when it was hard. Perhaps most when it was hard. Second, was to steward the existing Starfish culture of loyalty to mission, teamwork, and deep love of children and families.

In the nearly 15 years since beginning this journey, my own daughters have become amazing young adults, I’ve witnessed new teachers become master educators changing lives every day—and therapists partner with families to heal and build skills and resilience.

I’ve shed tears as clients from the Starfish Family crossed a graduation stage, found stability and health, and discovered their power.

I’ve sat in countless classrooms where children are joyfully playing, having their curiosity cheered on, and a lifelong love of learning is being born. No two days have been the same. All of them have been inspiring. 

I have always closed the day feeling humbled by the opportunity to lead, to be surrounded by the most amazing teams and collaborators, and to strengthen families to create brighter futures for children in SE Michigan. Thus, the news I share today brings me both joy and tender reflection.

Late yesterday afternoon, I shared with the 400+ employees at Starfish that I am planning for a transition to retirement by early next year. This announcement has been in the works for many months and in discussion with my family far longer.
My tenure and success have been bolstered by our incredible friends and supporters in the community. Together, we’ve been able to grow the agency by nearly 400% (both budget and team), expand our programmatic reach, and center our vision in seeking a just society in which all children, families, and communities have equitable opportunities to grow, learn, and thrive.

While change has complexity, this transition will be planful and is in the best of hands.

  • A search committee formed a couple of months back and has already secured a recruiting firm to lead a national search for exceptional candidates.
  • Our Board President, Howard Morris, is leading this process.

In fact, Howard was a member of the committee that hired me to the role of CEO following our visionary founder, Ouida Cash. This is more than just fate—it reflects the commitment and dedication that is part of the DNA of Starfish.

I will remain as CEO until a new leader is hired and a smooth transition is complete. Before then, there will be opportunities to connect and celebrate. Thank you for trusting Starfish through the years and into the future.

Lastly, Crain’s Business Detroit covered this announcement if you’d like to read the article.
With immeasurable gratitude,

Ann Kalass, Starfish CEO

Starfish Family Services

Starfish blog: Martin Luther King Jr. Day of service

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Monday, January 17 marks the federal holiday that honors the birthday of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. (His actual birthday occurs on January 15.) Signed into law in 1983 and first observed in 1986, the holiday is a deserving tribute to Dr. King for advancing civil rights and social justice through nonviolent protest.

It has grown beyond a federal holiday honoring Dr. King into a national day of community service. Each year, service projects are planned across the country to reaffirm Dr. King’s message of serving others. It’s actually not a day off, but a day on!

  • AmeriCorps has a searchable database of MLK Day volunteer opportunities. Simply put in your zip code and click on the “MLK Day” box to find the projects available in your area.
  • Ways to find virtual volunteering opportunities at any time: Search established databases such as VolunteerMatch.org, Catchafire.org, or Points of Light. If there’s a particular organization you would love to help, you can also check the organization’s volunteer section on their website.

Jan. 17: Commemorative Events (in-person)

Note: Due to COVID-19, some events may cancel without notice and those that do take place may enforce social distancing, face masks, and other safety protocols. Make sure you visit the links for your chosen event(s) for additional details.

  • MLK Jr. Day: Give Us the Ballot at the Detroit Historical Museum
    • Time: 10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.
    • Location: 5401 Woodward Ave., Detroit, MI
    • Cost: Free with museum admission. $10 for adults; $8 for seniors, students, active military, and first responders; and $6 for children ages 6-17. Admission for all children under 6 is free.
    • Registration: NA
    • Details: Visitors can participate in a voter registration project for kids as well as listen to an expert on the importance of registering to vote. Kids will make their own ‘mock’ voter registration cards and receive MLK worksheets and coloring pages. The event will conclude with cupcakes and a sing-along to Stevie Wonder’s “Happy Birthday.”

  • Martin Luther King Jr. Day at the Henry Ford Museum of American Innovation
    • Time: 9:30 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.
    • Location: 20900 Oakwood Blvd., Dearborn
    • Cost: Free
    • Registration: NA
    • Details: Learn about the contributions Dr. King made to the civil rights movement and view civil rights artifacts, including the Rosa Parks bus. Make a statement in the interactive program “Minds on Freedom,” highlighting the contributions of Martin Luther King Jr., Rosa Parks, and civil rights champions like the Freedom Riders. Explore the exhibit, “With Liberty and Justice for All.”

Jan. 17: Commemorative Events (virtual)

  • MLK Drive for Peace, Justice and Equity Hosted by: Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Task Force Inc.
    • Time: 9:30 a.m.
    • Location: Virtual (Live starting at Hope United Methodist Church, 26275 Northwestern Hwy., Southfield)
    • Cost: Free
    • Registration (to attend virtually via Zoom & Facebook): You must pre-register
    • Details: The Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Task Force, Southfield, MI was the first and remains the largest in the State of Michigan to celebrate the holiday.
  • 19th Annual Detroit MLK Day Virtual Rally & Cultural Program Hosted by: Detroit MLK Day
    • Time: 11:00 a.m. to 12:30 p.m.
    • Location: Virtual
    • Cost: Free
    • Registration: NA
    • Details: The 2022 event will be streamed utilizing Facebook, Zoom, and YouTube. The online character of the event provides the opportunity to invite guests from around the U.S. and the world. Visit the Detroit MLK Day Facebook page for more information.

Starfish blog: New Year sparks positive beginnings

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Spark new beginnings in the New Year

The turning of the calendar to a new year sparks a new beginning. Adults typically take this opportunity to make resolutions for positive change—like being more active, eating more fruits and veggies. But what about kids? Helping your children to embrace positive energy can never start too early.

Making resolutions is a great interactive activity to do with your children. If the word “resolution” sounds too intimidating, talk about setting goals—goals that are realistic. And have some fun! Kids love being involved in decision-making and charting their success. Depending on their age, create a sticker chart together or maybe experiment with flavors of vegetable smoothies that everyone can try. Encouraging your child to build healthy skills and habits now will carry well into adulthood. Below find some suggestions for age-appropriate New Year’s resolutions for kids adapted from the American Academy of Pediatrics.

Preschool children

  • I’ll pick up my toys and put stuff away where it belongs.
  • I’ll let my parents help me brush my teeth twice every day.
  • I will wash my hands after going to the bathroom and before eating.
  • I will always hold a grown-up’s hand when I cross the street.

Bid kids & tweens (5-12)

  • I’ll drink milk and water and limit soda and fruit drinks.
  • I’ll wear a helmet when I’m on my bike, scooter, or skateboard.
  • I’ll wear my seatbelt every time I’m in a car—or, until I’m tall enough to use a lap/shoulder belt, I’ll sit in the back seat and use a booster seat.
  • I’ll try to find an activity or sport that I like and that gets me moving at least three times a week (e.g., playing tag, dancing, soccer).
  • I’ll try to create time to read for fun.
  • I’ll be nice to other kids and friendly to kids who are shy, different, or new at school.

Teens (13+)

  • I’ll watch non-violent TV shows and video games and spend only one to two hours each day, tops, on them.
  • I’ll help my community by volunteering or by joining an organization that aids others in need.
  • I’ll stop negative self-talk (“I can’t do it,” “I’m so dumb”).
  • When I feel mad or stressed, I’ll take a break and choose positive, constructive ways to deal—like exercising, reading, journaling, or talking through problems with a friend or parent.
  • I’ll be careful whom I choose to date. I’ll treat them with respect and without coercion or violence – and expect the same.
  • I agree not to use a cell phone or text message while driving and to always use a seat belt.
  • When I see friends are struggling or engaging in risky behavior, I’ll talk with a trusted adult and try to find a way to help.

Our Mission

Strengthening families to create brighter futures for children.

Our Vision

A just society in which all children, families, and communities have equitable opportunities to grow, learn, and thrive.

Starfish Family Services
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30000 Hiveley
Inkster, MI 48141
734. 728. 3400

starfish@sfish.org

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